“You have to realize that you are not the only one having these thoughts. People have been overthinking and worrying for years. I think your generation just wants it fixed quicker.” My mom said to me, trying to make me feel less crazy during one of our many morning phone calls since she lives 1,003.1 miles away. She obviously means well and thinks this is helpful because this is how she copes. She prefers to think on the defense and it comforts her to know that she isn’t the first person to go through something tough, and she won’t be the last.
She’s right, in a way. Millennials are spoiled and it’s partially because we have access to everything that we can type in with our thumbs. We get antsy if there’s no wifi on planes for Christ’s sake or if our 4G isn’t fast enough. We want things immediately, success included, because we’ve seen other millennials grow to become successful entrepreneurs, and those who are prone to anxiety over rejection will obsess over their “lack of success”. That’s pretty much me in a nutshell. My idea of success isn’t coming fast enough. I should be doing more, working harder. Does anyone else feel the same?
But, knowing that I’m not the only one with anxiety doesn’t make me feel better at all. It doesn’t make me feel at ease. It still makes me anxious and on top of that, it makes me feel guilty. I think that my problems are stupid and unworthy of worry. As if I don’t already tell my brain that 10000x a day. Your problems are not that big of a deal. People are going through much bigger battles and wars than you are. In real life too, dummy! Not in imagining scenarios in their own head. But the whole point of being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder is the simple fact that it’s officially out of your control. You need to constantly work on it, combat it with techniques. It’s a battle after battle in a war against your own mind. And that can be the toughest opponent.
It’s sad, really. Sad that certain advances in our generation have also had consequences. We expect more at a faster rate because that’s what we are used to. We have a harder time just feeling shitty for a day and moving on. We need to be fixed NOW.
I think the most important thing to take away from this idea is this: We are all going through battles. It’s unfair to yourself to discredit what you are going through just because someone else out in the world has it harder. But if you are feeling shitty today, or worried about what could happen tomorrow, do your best to focus on now. Whether that’s a mindful exercise for a quick fix or scheduling an extra therapy session for the week, the most important thing to focus on is you.
Because you are a strong queen/king/warrior/general/knight and the battle is yours to win.